Bonjour – It’s been a relaxing week for me as I travel with our daughter. She’s off at French school today, so I had some time to read and study.  

For a little break, this morning, I spent some time listening to Denny Coates and Meredith Bell’s podcasts on parenting.  These are a series of reflective conversations that inspire one to think about life, love, and family.

Denny and Meredith are down-to-earth as they fluidly chat about parenting, in an open and honest manner. This podcast really got me thinking. It’s about being aware of how you parent. Being aware of what you say, think and do as a parent to achieve your specific parenting goals. Listen in HERE and reflect…….

  • What does conscious parenting mean to you? I don’t mean how other people or authors define it, I mean how do YOU define it:).

  • What are you conscious of as a parent?

  • Are there ways in which you try to parent your children similarly or dissimilarly to how you were parented?

  • What kinds of children are you trying to raise?

  • What are your goals for your children? To be smart? Happy? Compassionate?

  • How do you uniquely parent each of your children as individuals?

  • What does your parenting behavior tell your children about what you value?

  • What are your own goals as a parent? Could you articulate them? Are they written down? It might be fun to write them down and put them away for a later time, perhaps when your children become parents.

  • How do you know you are meeting your goals as a parent?

  • What skills do you teach your children? How, when and why?

  • What wisdom do you impart on your children? How, when and why?

  • How do you teach your children social-emotional skills? How, when and why?

  • When your children are grown, how will you know you parented well?

Denny Coates


Lynne Kenney, Psy.D., is a Harvard-trained psychologist, a mother of two teens, an international educator, author and a pediatric psychologist in Scottsdale, AZ. Dr. Kenney is the creator of the Social-Emotional Literacy program Bloom Your Room™, co-author with Wendy Young of Bloom: 50 things to say, think and do with anxious, angry and over-the-top-kids and author of The Family Coach Method. Her most recent book Musical Thinking: 5 Simple Steps To Teaching Children How They Think introduces her direct instruction method to improve executive function skills. Dr. Kenney’s next book, 70 Play Activities For Better Thinking, Self-Regulation, Learning and Behavior is available Fall 2016.