It’s that time of year again. The holidays.
Relatives are in town, holiday shoppers are all a-flutter and it’s easy to get over-stimulated. Since our children are often “family feelings” barometers, we might anticipate that there will be some melt-downs to accompany family dinners, shopping excursions and late nights out. Not to worry, patience and planning will help those over-the-top, anxious, angry, or agitated feelings find enough calm to sparkle.
Creating “Coping Stories,” planned strategies, or mantras developed in collaboration with your children is just what the holidays ordered.
Mantras are GREAT for planning to stay calm as a teacher or parent find yours at UNHOOKEDMEDIA.com
Begin with The Bloom Collaborative Mindset talking with your child about how you and he/she are on the same page and that you wish to help your child identify (write down, draw) some planned strategies and sentences you both agree to use when the escalation is imminent.
When you plan ahead of time and talk about developing “happier endings” to difficult moments, your child now knows you are here to support him and help “lift him up”. This “awareness agreement” helps his brain to be less defensive and more open to relying on you for help.
“Last week when we went to Target, things got tough. We both got upset. The story ended with us needing to leave the store. Let’s re-write the beginning, middle and end of that story, so that when we go shopping tomorrow we have a plan to get our needs met and leave with our minds calm and our hearts happy.”
Be a “Brain Helper”
When you have Cognitive Conversations and agree that you will both be “brain helpers” then when you use your mantra or planned calming strategy it is expected, not a surprise.
Above is a free printable with 8 things you can say to your child when the going gets too energized, to help him calm his body and brain.
Let us know how it goes, we truly care.
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